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Think twice before you talk to someone about their weight

I recently had someone comment about my weight.... I have gained about 30 pounds in the last months and I started this year doing something about it... but when this person made her comment.... I wanted to scream, cry and of course, eat.



When you  comment on someone's weight even if it is in "concern" for them, you are putting them in one of these situations.

1) They feel great the way they are, confident actually, and attractive and now you've cast doubt on all that.

2) They are already self conscious about it and you just made them feel worse.

3) They are aware they are over weight, are already on a diet or exercise plan but now you've made them question whether or not to continue because they don't want you to think they are losing it for you!

You know those snide comments or "joking" comments you slip into conversation?  Yea, you're not that sneaky and they can still hurt!
Weight is a very personal thing and unfortunately a struggle that cant be hidden!

When someone makes comments to me about my weight or how clean my house is or isn't, it hurts, it then makes me angry and then I'm torn with wanting to prove them wrong or NOT letting THEM change my life by their comments.... The people who typically comment on these things are also the people who will watch like a hawk for a change and then feel like they deserve "credit" for the change.

If you are the one doing it out of "concern" TRUST ME!  You are doing FAR more harm then good!
You are hurting them, making them feel like giving up because they cant give this person who hurt them the satisfaction of having "made them change".

Im so tired of negative and hurtful people!  Why can't we all worry about our OWN problems, we all have enough of our own issues we need to work on, how on EARTH is it ok to be mean to another?!

Its not our business to EVER point out someone elses flaws!  Its not our job to tell others what they are doing wrong, or what we "think" they should change! If someone asks your opinon, feel free to share it, otherwise..... don't volunteer!

that's all.....

Comments

  1. TjlJanuary 4, 2015 at 5:53 PM

    Amen. Can totally relate. At least it's not your husband

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  2. Rebekah HamonJanuary 4, 2015 at 7:56 PM

    Is never ok to shame other people. So sorry this happened to you. :( my rule is, always be kind.

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  3. UnknownMarch 17, 2015 at 2:11 PM

    A very wise woman once said. No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.
    Eleanor Roosevelt was a very smart woman in many ways. Those that hurt you like this are not friends. Not worth having in your life. To belittle some one else is the lowest form of self compliment. And those that take the time to say hurtful things to you obviously don't know how to focus on their life and get it right!
    I'm overweight and my house isn't perfectly clean, but guess what? My life, my way. your opinion doesn't count unless you support me like a friend should. My philosophy? Life is short, I will treasure it my way, my terms. Your conditional friendship doesn't count. I win.

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    1. ReenieJune 13, 2016 at 10:24 AM

      what a wonderful philosophy. Thank you for sharing

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