I know people who say "I don't go to funerals".
I get it.
Sometimes they are uncomfortable.
Sometimes they are painful.
No one WANTS to feel those things, but I want to tell you why it's important and valuable to be there during those times.
First of all, funerals aren't for the deceased, they are for the ones left behind.
The ones who loved the deceased.
The ones who are faced with loss.
Let me tell you what your presence at a funeral can mean.
It can mean "I am here because I care about you and the loss you are feeling"
It can mean " I am here because the person who has passed meant a lot to me"
It can mean "I am here because I've felt a similar pain".
You may think your presence at a day like this doesn't have an impact but I can tell you from experience that it does.
Those who take time to come share in a last farewell mean more to the family than can be put in to words.
Even if you don't know the family, but you were touched by the one who has passed, this means SO much to the family.
When you lose someone you love, you crave ANYTHING about them, stories, pictures etc.
Being at a funeral because you were touched by the life that has passed, sharing that with the family means more than you can know.
Your presence gives support, encouragement and a sense of not being alone in an emotionally difficult time.
I strongly encourage you to go to these things.
Not only for what it will mean to the family and close friends of the one who they are saying farewell to, but also what it will do for you.
Being reminded that life is fragile and a gift, is a good reminder for all of us to face every once in a while. No greater place for this than a funeral.
Being reminded that our lives can impact others greatly, is important to pause and consider before we rush on with our busy lives. It's valuable to pause and ask ourselves if our life is a positive impact on others?
Also, there is no need to concern yourself with having the "right words" for those who are hurting. First of all, being there is saying a lot to them in and of itself.... A hug, handshake, arm squeeze says more than your words ever can so let that worry go.
Funerals are important and your presence there is valuable.
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