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Mother's Day

It's that time of year where Mother's across the land are celebrated and honored.


It's bringing a twinge of pain for me this year as it reminds me of what I had hoped for but don't have.

I love the opportunity to celebrate the one who raised me, chose me, and wanted me.
I love being celebrated as a Mom.
I had hoped I would be able to also celebrate the one who birthed me.

This weekend for some reason is a reminder of one who chose to discard, not once, not twice, but three times my heart.

I'll never understand the "why", and maybe it doesn't matter.
I know with time, this pain will lessen and I will heal fully. This twinge of pain lets me know, I may not be as "healed" as I had thought.

Lately, I am SO thankful for reminders of what I HAVE been blessed with.

Reminders of those who choose to love me, those who have impacted my life even early on.

Those who CHOOSE to be in my life even knowing my flaws, still seeing value.

Oh how thankful I am for unconditional love from many, for my children who are my greatest joy in this life, and for a hope that is bigger than me.

Happy Mother's Day to all Mother's!
Whether you became a mother through birth, adoption, or simply mentoring others,
May you feel loved and valued, because you ARE valuable!

It's good for all of us to know we deserve to feel loved and be reminded that we are valuable.
It doesn't matter if everyone sees/knows our worth.
Accept the love from the ones who DO see it, and then be sure to know it in your own heart.

YOU matter!

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  1. CharlotteMay 11, 2018 at 1:30 PM

    Oh, Laureen. You are truly loved ad valued. I hope you always remember that. Love to you a mother in your own right with two lovely children. They are blessed to have you.

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