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"Our kids are just super active!" mmmhmm

I realized recently during a conversation that my children seem to others as mild mannered children...
"You're lucky you don't have super active children!" was said to me.

Mild mannered? um no, they are DISCIPLINED children.. there is a difference! 

This is used a lot... "....they just have super active kids so it's hard"

NEWSFLASH: ALLLLL kids are "active". 

Trust me, both my son and my daughter could wear anyone out! 
This is never an excuse for disobedience or disrespectful behavior. 

All children will climb the tables in a restaurant, or yell in public, throw a fit if they are allowed to do so.  All children have the tendency to throw a full on tantrum when they don't get what they want, it's called human nature in a small person.

Our kids tried that too.... but the results weren't worth doing it again and again.

If  you set boundaries (the younger the better) your children will know where they are.

Our kids are far from perfect... but when we tell them NO, or STOP, it has some weight.. they listen!

I am sometimes shocked at what parents allow their children to get away with... Using this "active children" as a reason. (can we say excuse?)

Kids need to play, be active and have fun.  But they also need to know when and where it's ok to be loud, to run etc.

Nothing touches my heart more than when my kids are with a group of children acting in a certain way that we don't allow, and they stop when we call their name...
Yes, they want to be "active" with others, and they start to participate, but when we call their name, tell them to stop, they do... this brings tears to my eyes because I know how hard that is...
Truth is, as an adult, it doesn't get any easier.  We all feel that pull to go along with what others are doing.  This doesn't mean its right.

Setting boundaries when they are little actually helps our children. 
Sometime we have that desire to let things go, look away and always just respond with love. There is truth to this, but if there isn't ANY discipline, we are doing more harm then good to our children.

YOU are the adult!  YOU are the one to correct and mold your children. 
Wouldn't you rather people find your children a joy to be around instead of something to tolerate?

I am in no way an expert on child-rearing... but I do know what I have proven with our two very different children and what I have witnessed others doing with the same results. 
I have made mistakes and there have been reactions a few times that I regretted, but I do NOT regret setting boundaries and rules... I don't regret having certain expectations of behavior and we are reaping the benefits of it now... by having "mild mannered" children. 

Are they always "calm" and "perfect"?  Nope. 

At times I thought my husband was being too strict when our kids were toddlers.... but he got results.
I tended to lean on the "aww, it's ok" side.  Truth is, you can't deny results. Those results are, when I started being consistent with discipline, MY life became easier and my children were easier for everyone to be around.

My kids are not "inactive", (they have more energy than a lot) my children are simply disciplined!

When we teach them "no", and how to live  within a certain standard, we are doing our job as parents and giving them the tools to succeed in life.

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  1. AnonymousSeptember 14, 2014 at 10:19 PM

    You are one smart loving mother!!

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