I'm the worlds worst Mom!

Somedays, us moms feel this way. I finally realized that I only feel this way when I see other mothers who are so much "better" than me!

The funny thing is, we can always find someone who does something better than us.

For example... I am not the mom who does painting projects with my kiddos.... I am not good at these because I cant stand the mess, so I hover and bark orders and suck allll the fun out of the project... so I avoid them completely.
Usually I am fine with this part of myself... until I am on facebook and see moms doing fun glittery projects, artsy crafty things with their kids and the kids are loving it! I think to myself " whats wrong with me!?"

This is just one tiny example of feeling inadequate because of what others are doing...There are many other areas I have beaten myself up over when it comes to raising children.

I recently read an article about how we should compliment other moms on a job well done.... we don't know their insecurities or struggles... a simple, "you're a good mom" can be SO encouraging! Yet we don't often do this, nor when its is occasionally said to us do we even believe it! Why is this so hard? Why do we only see the things we ARENT good at instead of being thankful for what we ARE good at! If we take the time to think about it... there are many gifts we give our children that are unique to us.

Why are we so hard on ourselves?

I think for me, its because being a good mom is the most important job I have ever wanted to accomplish.. even attempt to perfect. It is the only "job" that I have invested heart, soul, mind and body to and I want to be the BEST!

You can find someone who does better than you at almost anything when you look for them.... We shouldn't do this. This wasting time comparing ourselves to others and beating ourselves up isnt worth it.

We all have our strengths and weaknesses... and I believe that God gave us our children because we are the best mom those children could have. They are OURS for a reason!

So I will love my kiddos with all my heart, and continue doing the best I can... its all I can do anyway.

I will applaud other mothers who excel in areas I do not... and accept the compliments from others who appreciate my strengths....
At least I will TRY to do this... It could be a struggle to get to this in entirety but I am aiming for it!

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