Are you brave enough to stand alone?

Standing up for what is true and what is just, can come at such a big cost.
We might not even see it coming until we've already started to pay it.

It's still worth it.

As a little girl, I wasn't usually afraid to speak up for what I believed in, or defend those I felt had been wronged. I am thankful for those moments when I found the courage to do or say what was right.

I have learned from a recent experience, that when you make a stand for what is right and just, and it is unpopular or misunderstood, the hardest part is not defending why you stood.
A lot of times, you can defend your stance and a lot of times you don't even have to.

A recent stand my husband and I had to make, came at a deep, painful cost.

The hardest part of this instance has been not being able to explain or defend ourselves.

Circumstances surrounding this need for taking a stand and taking action, required me to be silent. Silent about what led to the stance, silent about why the stance was needed and silent when attacked for standing.

Even though I know in the deepest part of my core that the steps taken were just and needed, and even though I know why I had to be silent, I still wish it could have been different.

My bravery has wavered, my confidence has been hindered, and my faith in my community and fellow man has been shaken.
One day, I will be able to share the truth and what led to the need for action, but until then, I must accept that those who know what happened, know it was the right thing to do, and that -I- know it was the right thing to do.

The thing is, the truth is still the truth, even if NO ONE believes it, or wants to believe it.

A lie is still a lie even if everyone believes it, or wants to believe it.

The constant desire to please others and be well-liked, can cause us to pause in our decision of whether we stand for truth or not.

I would rather stand alone for truth and justice, than march with an army for a cause based on a lie.

I would rather be persecuted for doing the right thing, than live with guilt for doing the wrong thing or worse, doing nothing.

"I would rather stand alone for truth and justice,

than march with an army for a cause based on a lie!"

Am I brave enough to always stand for what's right?

I wish I could say I have ALWAYS done this, but the truth is, there have been some moments where I did nothing, as opposed to something right, for the sake of not standing alone. (or for pleasing others)

Are you brave enough to stand for what is right?

Are you brave enough to stand for truth?

Are you still brave enough when the cost is so great, it shakes you to your core?

Are you brave enough to stand for what is true when it means standing against others?

Are you willing to keep standing when others try to discredit your stance with lies?

I am trying to live that kind of brave.

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