Fashion - what it SHOULD be

These shoes, they are one of a kind.

They are an obviously hand decorated item.

But they are priceless.

My daughter took time to paint, decorate and design these shoes for me for Christmas.

Not only did it make her face beam when I thanked her profusely for them, but her heart almost burst with pride when I wore them.

When I wear these shoes, I am not wearing them to impress anyone and I certainly know some people notice and raise an eyebrow.

But do you know what is on my mind the whole time I walk in them?

These were made with love.

These represent my daughter knowing what I love (heels, yellow, blue and polka dots) and wanting to do something for me because she loves me.

This is what I believe fashion should be.

Items to dress ourselves with that have meaning, or warm our heart simply because we have them on.

Not that long ago, I went to a dinner where I met someone I had never met before, whom I thought would be a part of my life from thereon out.

I wore an outfit that represented me.

The outfit pictured above.

Bright colors, playful and unique.

It was an outfit that I felt comfortable, confident and pretty in.

After that initial meeting a few conversations later, it came up that the person I had met didn't think I wore the latest fashions, and compared to her, maybe I would struggle because I wasn't on the same level as her fashion-wise.

Of course it hurt at first, then it made me angry.

While I realize what I wore isn't what most people would have worn, it was genuine and true to who I am.

Maybe it wasn't the "latest trend" but I don't care about that stuff!

I couldn't wear that outfit for over a year after, until I decided I will not change who I am for someone who didn't see me for who I am. I was so happy to wear it again, when I decided she didn't get to define what "fashion" was to me!

Fashion should be what makes us smile.

Fashion should be what makes us feel confident.

What we choose to wear should be simply because we like it.

Period.

End of story.

If it makes you smile, reminds you of someone you love, or simply boosts your confidence, wear it!

Confidence and happiness are ALWAYS in style!

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